So to be completely honest, I really don't have many friends. I have acquaintences but not many close friends. I stick to my Primary Groups. I have a boyfriend and maybe one or two close female friends at a time. Over the years I've had many close friends and I know first hand how unstable Primary Groups are. I have observed other groups and their ranks how there's always that one person that is the one that others gravitate towards. Some are on the outskirts of the group and some are the motivators. From what I've seen, the more attractive people are in the center; it seems to be the human nature to revolve around the better looking ones. Probably because our eyes see before our ears hear but that's besides the point. It doesn't necessarily mean that the other people's personalities are ugly it just means that some others aren't as aggressive.
The other night I was at a "nerd party" (guys playing xbox- SO.... interesting...) and I could even plainly see how their group was composed. Again, the better looking guys who had a little bit more of witty comments or jokes or moves were the ones that everyone gravitated towards whether it was sitting by them or listening to their ideas. It still is the same with guys as it is with girls. Generally our class would have done girl examples except for the 2 guys so I figured I'd mix it up a bit.
Maybe I just don't really see the group dynamics because I try to ignore them and plus I could just be on the outsides so I can take a step back and look at what is going on around me. Girls aren't the only ones fighting for dominance.
I can definately say that I used to be a "top dog" in my group back in "the day" when I went to school at Neenah. Now at Neenah the group dynamics are SO outlined its not even funny. Its like a black and white difference (granted the chance of actually getting to know a greater majority of the kids at Neenah is not even a possibility so I'm basing this off of what little panoramic view I got while I was there as a Freshman and Sophomore). Its obvious that the more aggressive kids are going to be the ones at the top. And I use aggressive in a term where many people might not know that they are actually being "aggressive". Subconsciously it seems like everyone is fighting to work their way to the top. It doesn't just mean the popular girls who are really alone and insecure. Its also the nerds who compete to see who has the most smarts. I would even bet that the nice people are also battling to the top: who can be the nicest. It's just part of human nature.
